Care to get frustrated?Â Here are two bits to help you out – one on celebrity sex tapes and a call for a return to more shameful days (!!) and yet another lamentation re porn addiction and the need for “real” sexâ€¦ le sigh
“When Celebrity Sex Videos Are Rated Y (for Yawn)” by Alex Williams, New York Times (10/18/13)
Nostalgic Alex asks us…
Remember when the celebrity sex video still had the power to shock, when the leak of a private home movie was greeted as a pop-culture event, with Hollywood careers in the balance?
Those were the days. (here)
Soâ€¦ Alex is romanticizing the days when *known* people could be shamed and publicly humiliated by “evidence” of their sexual encounters?
What a douche.
Look Alex, some things I get – I get “celebrity sex tapes” nowadays are pretty much PR scams. Backdoor to Farrah (or whatever it’s called) is a perfect example. And when a professional sex performer like James Deen is ashamed to share his work – because that production was work, not a romantic dalliance between a couple – we should all take note of what’s going on.
Maybe sex tapes today are boringâ€¦ Wait, sex tapes today ARE boring – it’s partly because they’re not longer “real” private moments (we love seeing something we’re technically not supposed to)â€¦Â But the idea that you would rather go back to the days when a woman could be publicly humiliated after her private loving moments were literally stolen (Pam) or that you advocate young women being shamed by their exploratory sex behavior (Paris and Kim)â€¦ well, no.
(pictured: more embarrassing to JD than anyoneâ€¦)
I have written more on the evolution of “celebrity sex tapes” here – enjoy!!
“My Sexuality After Porn” by Issac Abel, Salon (10/30/13)Â
The annoyingly self-righteous and pseudonymed (why the fake name, bro? who are you?), Isaac Abel recently let us know that…
Years of Internet smut screwed with my mind. With my girlfriend’s help, I tried to reprogram how I get turned on. (here)
[P]orn didnâ€™t visit my mind to spice things up; it colonized my sexual brain. Porn grabbed as much terrain as it could and wiped out whatever native culture might have otherwise lived there. Now,Â I canâ€™t just complement my sex with a little visual arousal, I practically need it to cum. (here)
This is so tedious to me.
Porn is not alive!! Porn did not take over your computer and/or direct your to whatever XXX site. Porn is not an aware being with a conscious set of goals, much less a conscious set of goals that involve colonizing and corrupting your brain
Look “Issac,” I’m happy that you’re working to build a more fulfilling sex life. But blaming porn for your need for self-reflection and intimacy work doesn’t help. It just makes you seem like a fool looking to pass the buck.
You remind me of this guy Davy I wrote about onceâ€¦ (here)
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