Given all the drama-chaos-cluster-horror of this week, I have decided that what I need is some Interesting News. Thus, without further ado…
…Stormy Daniels, sex education, Sidney Grief, and Taylor Swift(ing)!!
Stormy Daniels – badass mother, badass mother f*cker!!
This is an incredible, honest, and (at points) brutal piece that must be read in full –> here <– in order to be fully appreciated, but the gist of it goes like this…
For the past 10 years,Â Stormy DanielsÂ has been one of the most sought-after actresses in the adult industry. Sheâ€™s anÂ Adult Video NewsÂ award winner and contract star for Wicked Pictures, who also writes and directs her films. Sheâ€™s had mainstream success, too, with small parts inÂ TheÂ 40 Year Old Virgin,Â Knocked Up,Â andÂ Finding Bliss. Daniels is beautiful, and has a successful career. But she says that to make her life complete she wanted what so many other women have: she wanted to become a mom…
Just like the discrimination same-sex couples raising children face, moms whoÂ work in the adult industryÂ are thought to be incapable of nurturing healthy children and imparting good values because their lifestyles and careers are perceived to be immoral. A caricature of the porn-star mom persists. People might imagine the Amber Waves character, played by Julianne Moore, in the movieÂ Boogie Nights. Amber is a coked-out, troubled adult actress of the 1980s portrayed as an unfit mother because of her career. But in reality, just because a mom has worked or currently works in the adult industry, it doesnâ€™t mean she canâ€™t be a good parent….
Although Daniels is comfortable with her career choices, she also describes being very aware of othersâ€™Â prejudices. She doesnâ€™t readily tell other moms who are not in the adult business what she does for a living. â€œI keep people at a distance because I donâ€™t want them to find out what I do and then punish my daughter for it,â€ she says.
She shares a cautionary tale from a friend of hers, who used to be in porn. â€œWhen her son was 6 years old, he came home from school crying because another little boy in his class was having a birthday party,â€ she says. â€œThere were 30 kids in his class and the other mom came to school and gave out 29 cupcakes and  invitations to his skating party, and didnâ€™t give him a cupcake and didnâ€™t give him an invitation to the party…”
â€œIâ€™m so terrified thatâ€™s gonna happen, but at the same time, my daughter will be preparedâ€¦ A women who gives out 29 cupcakes and makes a child sit there is far worse than anything that Iâ€™ve ever done on camera.â€
Let’s just read that one again:Â â€œA women who gives out 29 cupcakes and makes a child sit there is far worse than anything that Iâ€™ve ever done on camera.â€
Absolutely strength-beyond-strength awesome – please take a few moment to read this piece in full, “Stormy Daniels on Being a Porn-Star Mom.”
Finally, a sex education-related lawsuit I can get behind!! – “Teach our kids about condoms!” by Tracy Clark-Flory –> here
(I’m being dramatic – there are actually many lawsuits I can support, but I just love that a sex education-related suit is being brought forth for what I feel are the right reasons)
In an unprecedented move, parents in California are suing their local school district over sex education. But these parents arenâ€™t revolting for the reasons weâ€™ve come to expect: Theyâ€™re suing because they want their kids to be fully informed â€” imagine that.
The sex ed textbook used by the Clovis Unified School District in Fresno, Calif., â€œdoes not mention condoms at all, even in chapters about HIV/AIDS and on preventing STDs and unintended pregnancy,â€ according to aÂ press releaseÂ from the American Civil Liberties Union, which is representing the parents, along with local doctors, in the suit. Instead, the textbook recommends preventing STDs through self-respect, group hangouts, abstinence and, um, â€œplenty of rest.â€ Who wrote this thing, Todd Akin?
Charmingly, the curriculum compares â€œa woman who is not a virgin to a dirty shoeâ€ and explains that â€œmen are unable to stop themselves once they become sexually aroused,â€ says the ACLU.
This isnâ€™t just an assault on reason, it also breaks the law, the suit argues. In 2003, we wild â€˜nâ€™ crazy California liberals passed a law requiring sex education in public schools to be comprehensive and, you know,Â scientifically accurate.Â Last year, researchers at the University of California San FranciscoÂ foundÂ that things had improved throughout the state since the lawâ€™s passage, but spottily. More than a quarter of school districts did not teach HIV prevention â€” in fact, schools were more likely to discuss abstinence than mandated information about HIV â€” and only 58 percent covered contraception.
So, sadly, Clovis Unified is not alone â€” although Fresno County does have the distinction of having one of the highest teen birth rates in the state.
Go Fresno!! (go Fresno?)
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Some Twitter BS earlier today caused me to revisit one of my favorite Back Stories ever – an interview with FSC President, small business proprietor, and community activist Sidney Grief.
The interview, originally conducted almost two years ago in September of 2010, tells the incredible story of a man who has dedicated his life to fighting to protect our civil liberties. Sid Grief is amazing, and you should read about him here.
Â (pictured: me and Sid in his store, AAA News, in Austin, Texas)
And lastly, I could pretend that this song isn’t beyond catchy (“I hate pop music, someone crank up the Pantera!!”)… and I could spend a bunch of time talking about all the (additional) reasons why it and Taylor Swift are feminisms’ worst nightmare… and why maybe Taylor and her chanteusing should be society’s worst nightmare as well… but I’m not going to!!
Instead, I will simply enjoy this song (even the silly little talking part that happens almost exactly at the song’s two-third moment – hello, formulaic!!)… maybe for the tenth time today, maybe on repeat – you. will. never. know.
Enjoy Taylor Swift’s “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together” …and then go take a walk!! (that’s what I’m going to do)
ps someone please notice all the different forms of feminism and girl power and women’s empowerment present in these bits of Interesting News…
…because there’s no correct way to be a feminist, and there’s no one right way to fight/challenge/change problematic dimensions of society – there is only authenticity, your voice, humanity, and being true to all of it to the best of your ability.
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Interesting News –Â news thatâ€™s interesting!!
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